We can’t plan for everything in life.
Suddenly the lights can just change on us
A bit like being in a boat, fishing, minding our own business when out of the blue comes a wave that just flicks us out of our comfort zone and into the sea.
Our first reaction, as we come up sputtering for air might be:
i.e. “She’ll be right- I can still see my boat” or “Those people over there in that rubber dingy will help me out”
This doesn’t happen as quickly as we might have hoped, help passes us by, so next comes:
i.e. We start gulping in saltwater and air, we thrash around yelling “Help“; “This isn’t fair”; “Come back!”
We use up lots of energy, floundering around until exhaustion finally sets in.
Eventually we realize that we are battered but mostly still here, we start treading water then we maybe lie on our back for a bit and try to float. This rock bottom feeling eventually leads to:
i.e. We start to notice land out of the corner of our eye, we remember we can swim. This giving up on our stalemate, getting no where fast state and reaching out towards recovery is:
i.e.The awareness that we do have other life skills to keep us going and the hope that there might be calmer times ahead, could be just enough to motivate us to stretch out and reach land.
Searching for meaning
i.e. We arrive exhausted on the beach and marvel that we have survived at all.
i.e. This stage comes later, after we have dried off and reflected on all that has happened. Maybe we resolve to improve our swimming skills and next time wear a life jacket but most of all we are grateful we have made it through this experience to dry land at last.
In recent years, many New Zealanders have been through “rocky boat” situations Eg. earthquakes; terror attacks; Covid-19; loss of savings, jobs, businesses and loved ones. Little wonder that many people find difficulty sleeping, may feel depressed, anxious and unsure of where “dry land” is any more.
Although unexpected change can be painful it often also comes with unexpected benefits:
- As we transition from one experience to another we learn to be better swimmers, becoming more resourceful and quicker at adapting to new circumstances.
- In time the troughs between waves get shorter, the sea gets shallower as we become more practiced at coping with these changes.
- Also, we become better at predicting the weather, building bridges across the void from sea to land by noticing the changing conditions around us, being prepared, having our rescue kit ready and developing our B plans.
- We have the opportunity to also become better crew. Not everyone can adapt quickly but through our own efforts to “stay afloat” we are more able and prepared to reach out and to help others to shore.
What has all this to do with nutrition?
Eating well gives us the strength to swim against the tide when we have to.
It also helps to keep our body free of some diseases that we can mostly control ourselves such as obesity, Type 2 Diabetes, hypertension and heart disease etc. So as to maintain our own best level of fitness for when we most need it.
Eating well also provides nutrients that help our brain to think through strategies, that helps our memory, concentration, reaction times, judgement and decision making skills.
This story is in no way intended to minimize the suffering that many are feeling right now with the pressures of Covid-19 and life change, but rather to serve as a reminder that each of us have skills we may have forgotten that we need to hone in order to stay afloat if not for ourselves, for others we love who rely on us.
If you would like to get “match fit” and to have more energy to cope with life change, do contact me for a nutritional assessment to find the quickest way to help you build strength.
For more motivating articles by Lea:
Unlock your potential with food
Our “attitude” is key to better health
Break free from procrastination
Accept responsibility for your own success
Find optimism for goal success
Mind the gaps
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Olson, A. The theory of self -actualization. Psychology Today Aug 13,2013.
Smith, K. The psychology of dealing with change : How to become resilient Psycom. Feb 21 2020.